Meet your neighbors... the ABC House
Updated 2:29 pm, Friday, February 3, 2017
Unlike their classmates making the same transition, the girls are living away from home. They’re two of five girls living at the ABC House in Darien. ABC stands for “A Better Chance,” a program that allows up to eight girls of color from the tri-state area to board in Darien and attend the high school.
“I got more homesick in the second quarter,” Mitchell said. “November and December were hard because it was a long time being away from home. But the older girls helped.”
Right now, there are five girls living in the ABC House, a four-bedroom, four-bath home: junior Jenelsy Lopez, sophomores E’Sachi Smalls and Angie Jimenez and Arbubakrr and Mitchell, the freshmen. They live with Beth and Peter Horan, a nurse and aspiring math teacher, who act as resident directors of the home.
For more information on the ABC House, visit abcdarien.org.
The Horans live in a downstairs apartment. They have four children, all graduates of Darien High School, and had sold their Darien home and moved to Milford for 10 months before they decided to come back for the opportunity to be resident directors this past fall.
“For us, it’s a total privilege for us to be here,” Beth Horan said.
“We’ve enjoyed the activities we’ve done together,” Peter Horan said.
“These guys are so game for road trips,” Beth Horan said.
“The greatest challenge is socially, there is some ... behavior the girls can’t participate in,” Beth Horan said. “We do stuff within ourselves, but we’re trying to think of ways to jazz up their social lives.”
The consequences if they get caught drinking aren’t the only things that distinguish the girls from their classmates. The girls are minorities in a town that’s over 95 percent white. They all hail from the Bronx, N.Y., (with the exception of Arbubakrr, who is a New Jersey resident). This draws some curiosity from their classmates.
“They think New York is so dangerous,” Jimenez said. “I’ve gotten used to it; it’s not that bad!”
This is just one example of stereotypes their classmates might believe, many perpetuated through social media. The girls don’t mind the curiosity, but want people to know not to believe everything they see.
“I want to make sure everyone knows we’re well spoken,” Smalls said. “Everyone has a dialect, but we can switch and speak well for ourselves.”
“People won’t say ‘black’ in front of us,” Arbubakrr said. “I had a teacher apologize for saying ‘black.’ But it’s not a big deal.”
For Lopez, she’s found people ask about her hair after she’s gotten it straightened when she goes home for the weekend.
“People make comments like, ‘Be careful, don’t want to get your hair wet,’ ” she said. “It crosses a line because hair is part of our culture.”
“The way people dress is different and makes us look different,” Lopez said, noting her freshman year, she noticed everyone wore white shorts and rainbow sandals from Darien Sport Shop.
“Over time, I started to wear some of the same stuff,” she said, admitting she now owns her own pair of rainbow sandals.
The girls admit they came to Darien with their own ideas about the town, many of which were debunked.
“I thought in Darien, people listened to Katy Perry,” Jimenez said. “But I came here and found out they listen to Kanye.
“Not everyone is as affluent here as you think,” she said. “It’s a stereotype.”
The girls experienced culture shock from having grown up in an urban environment. They remarked on how quiet the town is and how different it is for them to not be able to hop on the subway to get around. The town is a lot smaller than what they’re used to and admittedly more homogenous.
But overall, the girls have found a warm welcome in Darien and embraced the community. Smalls plays volleyball and interns at E.C. Scott Group in Darien, while Lopez works at Palmer’s. Jimenez cheerleads, plays the clarinet, manages the softball team and volunteers at Norwalk Animal Hospital. Se and Lopez also volunteer at Person-to-Person.
Both the Horans and Yvette Eenkema vanDijk, co-president of the program, said they feel the community gets as much from the girls as they get from it. And the girls love Darien back.
“I love the school, ’cause all the students strive for great grades, not like at my old school,” Smalls said. “I find it welcoming. That’s what I love about Darien.”